The Cycle of Stress and Overwhelm

I knew it was coming

I could feel it getting closer and closer every time I stopped to rest

So I kept going

I pushed myself harder faster longer

I thought I could beat it

I ignored all of the signs that were telling me to slow down

Until the day I couldn’t ignore them anymore

I have always been an overachiever

I have always been a perfectionist too, and the words “if it’s not done right it’s not worth doing” are my unofficial mantra.

At work, at home, in my circle of friends, I am the one everyone goes to in times of crisis.

I can find a way when no one else can.

I can take a hot mess of a problem and break it down into actionable steps while simultaneously ensuring systems are in place to prevent such a problem in the future.

Whew. That’s a lot.

And it comes with an enormous amount of pressure.

Pressure from everyone depending on me.

Pressure from my boss.

Pressure from my family.

Pressure from society.

Pressure from wanting to succeed.

Pressure from not wanting to let anyone down.

Pressure from trying to do it all.

Pressure from trying to be everything to everyone.

And I am willing to bet that even if you were never an overachiever before, as soon as you became a mom you felt all of those same pressures bearing down on you.

And if you were never a perfectionist, how many of those tendencies suddenly appeared alongside your delicate bundle of joy?

Maybe it’s all of the carefully curated lifestyles we send on endless parade while scrolling through our news feed.

Maybe it’s the tidy TV homes we basically live in during our marathon movie sessions with a newborn by our side.

Or maybe it’s because our society is so focused on “getting” that we have simply forgotten how to let anything go.

Whatever the cause, all of this pressure has become crippling to moms today.

I know because I am one of them.

I found out that hard way that “Supermom” is a fictional character comprised of ideals that no one should be expected to meet.

And certainly not what we should expect of ourselves.