A Real Reason To Overcome Fear

I wish I could say that I have all the answers.

I certainly don’t.

What I do have are a hell of a lot of “been there, done that” stories that have brought me to where I am today.

And by sharing them, my hope is that you can laugh with me, cry with me, and see that we all have something to offer – even if we do have to dig really deep inside.

 

As part of my commitment to improving my own mental health I have been working my way through various journaling prompts to help with anxiety and depression, as well as overcoming fear.

No big deal, just exercises that make me dig a little deeper into my fears and anxiety than I usually want to go.

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What are you grateful for today?

Definitely not pollen, but the warmer weather is nice.

Certainly grateful that it’s almost the end of the school year and we will be at the beach in no time at all.

Gotta get to three things per the instructions, so probably something to do with it being my daughter’s birthday.

Even though it makes me sad to see her growing up so quickly, I am grateful that we were able to have such a wonderful space cats celebration with our family in honor of her birthday.

Yes, space cats!

 

Next question. What are you afraid of?

Imagine me spitting my coffee across the room because that is exactly what happened.

Seriously?

Let’s try it a different way.

What am I not afraid of?

Um, not much. Storms – I actually like those.

Being alone – literally my favorite way to be.

Annnnnd not much else.

There is no way I could write out what all I am actually afraid of because it’s literally almost everything.

Just ask my mom.

Or my husband.

Or my kids…

 

Continuing on. What has that fear kept you from doing? 

Hahhhhh.

Joke’s on me today because apparently these journal prompts are really intended to make me write a novel.

Again…literally everything.

 

Have you ever had a moment of clarity?

Where the big picture just comes out of nowhere and hits you like a ton of bricks?

Or a meteor, maybe?

 

Yeah, that’s me right now.

All of the things that I have wanted to do, and couldn’t.

All of the things I thought I would do, and didn’t.

All of the things I want so badly for my girls, but don’t embrace them myself.

 

Boldness.

Courage.

Ferocity.

 

The willingness to stand up for yourself and proudly say “this is me, take it or leave it.”

 

And you know what? I have taught them well.

Both of my girls are free spirits who know exactly what they like and what they don’t.

 

But I’m afraid that they need more from me than just encouraging words.

They need me to be an example.

 

I have spent my entire life trying my best to avoid having to face my fears. 

I fear being judged…so I try to fit in. 

I fear getting in trouble…so I follow the rules. 

I fear putting myself out there…so I miss out on some of life’s most important opportunities. 

 

Easy enough when it was just about me.

I didn’t mind missing out one bit if it also meant avoid potential failure.

But now, it’s not just about me.

It’s about the people that I could be helping and the example that I can set for my girls along the way.


As much as I like to avoid any and everything that could cause me any type of discomfort, my meteor shower of clarity today has made me realize one thing: I finally have a real reason to take the steps to overcome my fears.

Actually, I have two of them. 

And I want more than anything to make them proud.

 

Do you have a real reason for wanting to overcome your fears, or have you had a meteor shower hit you recently? I would love it if you let me know in the comments below!

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Your Secret Weapon In The Battle Against Mom Guilt

Find Out Your Secret Weapon To Building The Life Of Your Dreams

 

It’s time to wrap up this 7-Day blog post series about letting go of mom guilt to get what you want out of life.

We’ve covered a lot of ground already this week and you should be very proud of yourself for sticking around!

I’ll bet you surprise yourself with how much progress you make going forward using the techniques you learn with this series. Before you know it, you’ll start reaching your big lofty goals one by one, without those guilty feelings holding you back.

On this last post in the series on mom guilt, I want to leave you with some tips and advice that will help you as you continue your journey.

Before we dive in, I want to share a quick story about my daughter and her unshakable confidence.

Right after she turned 3, she got really into superheroes.

One of her favorite cartoons features young children who transform into superheroes at night when they should be in bed in their PJ’s!

She is totally convinced that she is now “Super Alyssa,” who is super strong, super fast, and super brave. If something derails her plans or gets in her way, she is quick to say “let’s try again!”

Just like the characters in her favorite show, she knows that her first try may not result in success and she may need to call in reinforcements.

But part of being a superhero is not giving up until the job is done.

And she has totally unshakeable confidence that if she keeps trying, she will eventually succeed.

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Did you know that you have a superpower, too?

You sure do – Confidence.

I like to think of it as a secret weapon that helps you keep doubt and guilt at bay. And it is the key to your success in any area of your life.

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Starting to make progress toward your big lofty goals by taking the baby steps that we discussed a few days ago can be a great confidence builder.

Don’t be afraid to go back to taking baby steps any time that you feel like you’re losing confidence in yourself or you start stressing out about how big your goals are!

One of the reasons why I recommend starting with baby steps first is to give you something known as a “quick win.”

Even reaching a small milestone can do wonders for your confidence and help you push that guilt further out of your life.

Setting larger milestone goals is another great way to break your goal down into manageable tasks and to boost your confidence.

For example, if your goal is to lose a large amount of weight, break it down into 10-pound increments and focus all of your energy on reaching that next 10-pound loss.

Think about what choices you can make in the upcoming week that will help you lose 10 pounds.

Think about your choices on a daily basis, and ask yourself if it is moving you closer to your goal or further away?

Celebrate your small successes – it’s a great confidence booster! 

Tracking your overall progress is another great way to feel like you’re moving in the right direction.

Sometimes it’s hard to see how far you’ve come in the day to day activities of life.

Chart your progress on a calendar, a large graph hanging on your fridge, in a document on your computer, or even in an app on your phone.

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It’s nice to have a visual reminder that what you’re doing is working and giving you the results you want and need.

Last but not least, find a cheerleader to encourage you along the way.

This could be a close friend or family member, or it could be a group of like-minded people with similar goals.

One of the awesome things about the internet is that you can find people with the same or similar interests in lots of groups and forums.

A Facebook group is a great place to connect, compare tips, ideas, and results, and of course celebrate successes and serve as a source of encouragement.

The most important thing is that you keep developing your superpower and use that confidence to craft the life you’ve always wanted.

Good luck and keep up the great work!