Your Secret Weapon In The Battle Against Mom Guilt

Find Out Your Secret Weapon To Building The Life Of Your Dreams

 

It’s time to wrap up this 7-Day blog post series about letting go of mom guilt to get what you want out of life.

We’ve covered a lot of ground already this week and you should be very proud of yourself for sticking around!

I’ll bet you surprise yourself with how much progress you make going forward using the techniques you learn with this series. Before you know it, you’ll start reaching your big lofty goals one by one, without those guilty feelings holding you back.

On this last post in the series on mom guilt, I want to leave you with some tips and advice that will help you as you continue your journey.

Before we dive in, I want to share a quick story about my daughter and her unshakable confidence.

Right after she turned 3, she got really into superheroes.

One of her favorite cartoons features young children who transform into superheroes at night when they should be in bed in their PJ’s!

She is totally convinced that she is now “Super Alyssa,” who is super strong, super fast, and super brave. If something derails her plans or gets in her way, she is quick to say “let’s try again!”

Just like the characters in her favorite show, she knows that her first try may not result in success and she may need to call in reinforcements.

But part of being a superhero is not giving up until the job is done.

And she has totally unshakeable confidence that if she keeps trying, she will eventually succeed.

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Did you know that you have a superpower, too?

You sure do – Confidence.

I like to think of it as a secret weapon that helps you keep doubt and guilt at bay. And it is the key to your success in any area of your life.

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Starting to make progress toward your big lofty goals by taking the baby steps that we discussed a few days ago can be a great confidence builder.

Don’t be afraid to go back to taking baby steps any time that you feel like you’re losing confidence in yourself or you start stressing out about how big your goals are!

One of the reasons why I recommend starting with baby steps first is to give you something known as a “quick win.”

Even reaching a small milestone can do wonders for your confidence and help you push that guilt further out of your life.

Setting larger milestone goals is another great way to break your goal down into manageable tasks and to boost your confidence.

For example, if your goal is to lose a large amount of weight, break it down into 10-pound increments and focus all of your energy on reaching that next 10-pound loss.

Think about what choices you can make in the upcoming week that will help you lose 10 pounds.

Think about your choices on a daily basis, and ask yourself if it is moving you closer to your goal or further away?

Celebrate your small successes – it’s a great confidence booster! 

Tracking your overall progress is another great way to feel like you’re moving in the right direction.

Sometimes it’s hard to see how far you’ve come in the day to day activities of life.

Chart your progress on a calendar, a large graph hanging on your fridge, in a document on your computer, or even in an app on your phone.

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It’s nice to have a visual reminder that what you’re doing is working and giving you the results you want and need.

Last but not least, find a cheerleader to encourage you along the way.

This could be a close friend or family member, or it could be a group of like-minded people with similar goals.

One of the awesome things about the internet is that you can find people with the same or similar interests in lots of groups and forums.

A Facebook group is a great place to connect, compare tips, ideas, and results, and of course celebrate successes and serve as a source of encouragement.

The most important thing is that you keep developing your superpower and use that confidence to craft the life you’ve always wanted.

Good luck and keep up the great work!

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You Must Take Baby Steps if You Want to Reach Your Big Goals

Today You Need To Take A Few Baby Steps Toward Your Big Goals

Really big goals can be really scary.

It doesn’t matter if it’s wanting to lose a significant amount of weight, pay off a large chunk of debt, or change careers.

When you think about tackling those big goals, you get intimidated.

Trust me, you aren’t the only one.

You put off working towards your goal because you either don’t have any idea where to start or because the task simply seems too daunting.

Today we’re going to tackle our goals head-on (in a not so scary way) and start making some progress to reach them.

 

 

The key to reaching your goal, no matter how big or lofty, is to start by breaking it down into bite-sized chunks and take baby steps until you build momentum.

You can reach any goal and make any change if you consistently take small steps towards it.

Without consistency, your goal will fall by the wayside and end up becoming yet another “guilt issue” for you to deal with down the road.

Don’t let it happen to you!

You’ve worked hard to get this far, so I want to encourage you to take a deep breath, sit back, and imagine what it will feel like when you reach your goal.

It’s going to be awesome, isn’t it?

The best part is that you don’t have to “have it all figured out” to get started.

  • You don’t need to know exactly what you’ll have to do at every step along the way.
  • You don’t need to come up with a plan to pay off your entire credit card debt before you can start finding ways to cut your current bills.
  • You don’t have to figure out how exactly you’ll lose all of those extra pounds before you start implementing healthier eating habits.
  • You don’t need to know how much it will take to buy your dream home before you open up a savings account.
  • You don’t need to know everything there is to know about opening and running your own bakery before you start practicing your skills.

 

Today is all about making a little bit of progress toward your goal to get yourself started.

This will get you over that initial hurdle and build momentum. It will also help you realize that you can figure out the rest along the way.

Ready to take those first few steps right now?

Start by looking at your big goal, the changes you want to make, or what you most want to get out of life.

You need to know what your end goal is, but you don’t need to worry about everything you need to do to get there. At least, not yet.

Just make sure you have an idea of the general direction you want to head in.

At this point, it’s fine to simply decide that you want to lose some weight and improve your health or pay off those credit cards and student loans to give yourself some financial breathing space.

Got your goal in mind yet?

Great!

Now come up with one or two little things you can do right now to help you move in the right direction.

It doesn’t matter how small those steps are.

Baby steps may seem insignificant when you look at the big picture and how far you need to go, but they will quickly add up.

Most importantly, baby steps will help you build momentum toward reaching your big goals.

 

Let’s look at a few examples of what those baby steps may look like:

If your goal is improving your health and losing weight, there are several easy changes you can make right away!

  • One of your baby steps may be to go for a 10-minute walk each day.
  • You could try replacing soda with sparkling or infused water.
  • Trying out some new healthy recipes and getting into the habit of eating a salad or steamed veggies would be another great baby step to take.

If your goal is to save money or pay off debt, find one or two places where you can save a few dollars and start applying them towards your financial goal.

  • Your first baby step could be to have $20 per month auto drafted into a savings account or toward the principal of your debt.
  • You could go through your bills and try cutting out some monthly extras like canceling magazine subscriptions or downgrading your cellphone and cable plans.
  • Another simple change would be skipping the coffee shop in the morning and packing your lunch instead of eating out.

If you want to change careers or start your own business, read up on what you need to do or find someone to talk to who’s in your desired job for some advice. There are plenty of free resources online, including blog posts!

In short, do something today, no matter how small, that will move you in the right direction.

Let me know in the comments what steps you plan to take!

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Why You Should Focus On Forgiving Yourself and Move On From Mom Guilt

You Need To Forgive Yourself And Start Loving The Real You

 

It doesn’t matter what’s been holding you back from pursuing your big dreams or the little things you really want to do. Once you’ve started to figure out what you’ve been feeling guilty about, the next step is to work towards forgiving yourself and practicing self-acceptance.

This post on forgiving yourself is part four of a 7 Day Mom Guilt Challenge. You can find the posts here for Day One, Day Two, and Day Three if you need to get caught up!

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Here’s the thing that most people don’t realize:

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If you’re ready to start crafting and molding the life of your dreams, start by loving and forgiving yourself first.

We are all human beings.

We make mistakes, we mess up, and we don’t do what we set out to do.

When we learn to forgive ourselves and love enough to try again, we learn and get better.

 

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That’s why this step of forgiveness and love is so important.

  • Start by examining what you feel guilty about.
  • Look at what you’ve done and what you haven’t done to get you closer to your personal goals.
  • Embrace the good stuff and feel proud of what you’ve already accomplished.
  • Acknowledge where you messed up and didn’t follow through.
  • Forgive yourself for it and accept it.

Maybe there’s an important lesson you’ve learned from your mistakes.

Maybe it was simply some much-needed practice to set you up for your future success.

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It’s all a matter of perspective.

I totally get that this is easier said than done! Mom guilt is a big burden on our hearts and we often linger on our shortcomings much longer than we should.

But if you can come from a place of love and forgiveness, it is much easier to see things in a positive light.

Think about how quickly your children are willing to forgive you – they love you unconditionally and always move quickly back to a place of love. We should do the same for ourselves.

  • Get in the habit of looking for the best and most positive in each situation.
  • Be kind to yourself and don’t condemn what you do or did.
  • Forgive yourself and keep working towards those positive, and potentially life-changing goals.

It helps to start small when you are learning to forgive yourself.

Find a little something you did today that you aren’t so proud of.

Forgive yourself (no, really) and see what you can learn from the experience.

Then build on that one positive and forgiving act and use the energy to do it again, and again, and again.

Most importantly, you start to build a positive habit that will help propel you forward.

As an added bonus, you’ll feel better about yourself, gain a ton of self-confidence, and end up with plenty of positive energy to tackle whatever life throws your way.

Isn’t that worth making the effort to forgive yourself and learn how to love the real you? (Your children already do!)

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3 Tips For Moms Battling To Overcome Depression And Enjoy Life

In your daily life, you live through a lot of moments and situations which can affect your emotions either positively or negatively, especially when you are battling to overcome depression.

Among these are your lifestyle, the people you encounter, your personal achievements and objectives, the weather conditions, and your state of mind.

Luckily, most of these are within your control.

This means that you can always choose to view them in a way that works to your advantage.
The last thing you want to do is get swept up and let the emotion of the moment get the better part of you.

Depression is one emotion that needs to be handled with a lot of care as it does not only affect the state of your health but in serious cases, your life is actually at stake.

I am glad to share tips to help you along your journey, but please remember this is only based on my personal experience and not in any way medical advice. Please consult a medical professional if you feel you have signs of depression and have yet to seek treatment, or if you have questions regarding your diagnosis.

I have personally dealt with depression for many years, and it often creeps up on me just when I feel like I have gained my footing.  Most people will never truly be rid of it, but there is a lot we can do to keep it at bay in our lives.

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Let’s walk through some important tips to help as you overcome depression.

Work on your lifestyle: Available research indicates that one of the major causes of depression today is your way of life.

This includes your eating regime, exercises, the way you associate with people, and your home environment.

Health experts recommend that you eat a healthy diet and pair it with some regular workouts if you want to help manage your mood swings.

Some diets are known to cause a lot of anxiety to people with sensitivities.

This means that the earlier you know about your body’s reaction to certain foods, the higher your chances of avoiding their negative effects.

As another health-focused habit, workouts are known to keep your mind and your body engaged.

This reduces the chances of you ruminating on your personal issues and releases feel-good endorphins into your system to help combat your depression.

I know the last thing you may feel like doing is heading to the gym, but even a few minutes per day of yoga can have excellent benefits.

Get some rest: After a busy day or lots of activity, it is more likely that your mind or body will be exhausted which may negatively impact your ability to cope with depression if you fail to get some rest.

Most parents, especially moms, have a lot on their plate including taking care of their family, doing household chores, and maybe even a full-time job.

This can make it hard for parents to fit in time to rest and rejuvenate!

In the long run, overstimulation and endless activity can cause dizziness and fatigue as you are forcing your mind and body to handle more than it is supposed to.

Most physicians recommend that you at least sleep for six hours per night to give your mind enough time to get enough rest, but we all know that worries, midnight wakings, and life, in general, can greatly reduce how much we actually sleep.

Separate Work and Family Time: You need to prioritize everything you do to avoid letting life’s stressors interfere with your family time.

Often, people who work outside the home make the mistake of dragging their personal issues to their work which ends up causing even more problems in their lives.

But what about bringing work issues home? Make sure that you draw a clear line between time for work and for family to avoid causing problems at home.

If you work from home, this can be an even greater challenge than for someone who can just “leave it at the office.”

Make an effort to have fun with your family even when you don’t feel like it.

Try as much as possible to remain relaxed and present without worrying about tomorrow or how your day has been.

You might find that your mood lifts and your depression lightens just a bit from the time spent connecting with those most important to you.

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Let me know in the comments below!

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To End Your Mom Guilt, You Need to Dig Deep

Dig Deep To Find The Reason For Your Mom Guilt

This is day three of our seven-day mom guilt challenge and it is time for you to dig a little deeper to find the root causes of the mom guilt that’s been holding you back.

Check out the posts from Day One and Day Two if you need to get caught up!

After all, you can’t work on something and start making improvements until you know exactly what it is that you need to work on!

Digging deep and examining your feelings can get a little uncomfortable, but don’t let that deter you.

You need to keep pushing through to get to the bottom.

It will be well worth it and you’ll feel much better about your role as a mom once you’ve faced your fears and dealt with your feelings of mom guilt.

 

Start off your exploration into the root of your feelings of mom guilt by finding a quiet place where you can think for a while without being interrupted (too many times…).

If you prefer, you can work through your feelings in writing using a journal or notebook, as some people find this helps them focus and stay on track.

Otherwise, simply thinking through it can work just as well.

Maybe you can find some time to escape for a hot bath as you work through this exercise.

Or maybe I am just dreaming 🙂

If you find that you have a hard time pinpointing where your feelings of mom guilt are coming from, it can be helpful to talk it through with a trusted friend or your spouse.

Ideally, this would be someone who knows you very well and can guide you along the way.

Encourage them to ask you probing, open-ended questions until you get to the bottom of the matter.

Or if you are struggling to dig deeper on your own, check out the 5 Whys Framework that I use when approaching problems in my life – both at work and at home.

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Here is an example of how you could work through your mom guilt about going back to work:

Let’s say you have been thinking of doing a little freelance work as a writer while you’re home raising your young children, but a feeling of guilt stops you from taking the first steps to give it a try.

When you sit down and start to examine your feelings, you may think that you would be taking time away that you could spend with your children.

But as you think more about it to imagine how you could make it work, you might realize that you already have time blocks available while they are napping and that you will have even more time once they start school.

Digging even deeper, you realize that you’re actually worried about how getting back into a career could be perceived by those around you.

Your spouse may feel like you don’t have enough time for him, and the neighbors may think that you’re a bad wife and mother if you focus on your freelance career.

Not to mention your mother-in-law…

By recognizing these thoughts, you realize that what you need to work on is changing your mindset about what other people think of you.

You could start out by discussing your desire to take on some freelance assignments with your spouse to see what he really thinks. After all, in most households, both parents work and you would have the added benefit of a flexible schedule.

You start to feel a little better about the whole idea after your discussion, but there’s still a knot in your stomach that keeps you from moving forward.

There is one more feeling that’s holding you back, and it’s manifesting in your life by feeding you with excuses for not taking action… but in reality, it’s also guilt.

You realize that what you’re really worried about is that you won’t make it.

That you can’t hack it.

You’ve been home for a few years and haven’t done much writing, freelance or otherwise.

What if no one will give you a project to work on or publish your writing?

What if even trying is just a waste of time?

 

You have found the real issue and it is one you can work on right now.

Now it’s your turn. Have you been wanting to take time to exercise, but feeling guilty about it? Have you been wanting to hire some help to clean your house, but keep putting it off? Take a few minutes to evaluate what you haven’t been doing, and see if you can identify the real reason behind your hesitation.

 

Why You Need To Find The Guilt That's Holding You Back

Take Time For Self-Reflection And For Finding The Guilt That’s Holding You Back

In this 7 day series on mom guilt, we are taking a look at guilt and why it can hold you back from doing the things you want to do.

In the first post, we started out by looking at what guilt is and how it holds you back from living the life you really want to live.

In order to break through your mental roadblocks and start making some series progress, you have to let go of the guilt.

All of it: the mom guilt, the “supermom” syndrome, the endless parade of should’ve, could’ve, and would’ve.

You’ve got to let it go.

That’s what we’ll cover today.

 

First Things First …. Find The Guilt

The first step in this process that you’ll walk through over the coming days is to find the guilt.

If you don’t know exactly what you feel guilty about, you certainly can’t come up with a plan to work through your guilt to send it packing!

Of course, it’s easier said than done.

If getting rid of your guilt was easy, you probably wouldn’t go through a 7-Day process to let it go!

It’s important that you’re committed to discovering what it is that’s holding you back and all of the things you may be feeling guilty about.

You really have to be brutally honest with yourself.

It’s not going to be easy.

It is, however, going to be helpful, eye-opening, and very productive.

 

 

Take Time For Self-Reflection to Identify Guilty Feelings

Start by giving yourself some quiet time to think.

We live in a loud and busy world that’s full of distractions.

Toddler tantrums, television, or time for homework – it never ends.

It’s hard to hear yourself think sometimes, isn’t it?

It’s also easier to keep yourself busy and just keep plugging away than it is to stop and take some time to reflect.

But avoidance is a whole other series…

So – find a quiet place, get comfortable and let your mind wander.

Start to think about what you want to accomplish.

Take a look at what might be holding you back: 

  • What thoughts or tasks start to make you feel uncomfortable when you think about them?
  • What part of your journey gets your stomach in a tight knot?
  • What is causing doubt to creep in?
  • What might be making you feel like you aren’t “enough”?

Pay attention to any triggers and see if you can start to pinpoint your feelings of guilt and where they may be coming from.

A Journal Can Be A Helpful Tool To Explore Your Mom Guilt

A journal really is an excellent tool in this process.

Grab a piece of paper, open up your laptop, or get a brand new journal to start writing your thoughts down.

Putting thoughts on paper can be very clarifying – it forces you to focus more intently and helps to organize your thought processes.

Writing also gives you something to refer back to and read later in the day or further along in the challenge.

This reading of your thoughts and what’s going on in your head can help you discover underlying causes as you “read between the lines”.

Why not give it a try and see if you find journaling helpful in this process?

Make A Plan To Discover Guilt Going Forward

Last but not least, it’s important to realize that this will be an ongoing process.

New feelings of guilt will pop up from time to time, especially as you move into new ages and stages of life.

Be on the lookout for them to pop up so you can address them right away.

Again, journaling can be a great tool for this.

At the very least, be aware of your feelings and carefully evaluate your decisions going forward to see if they are simply being made out of guilt.

Make sure you find some time to evaluate your feelings regularly so you can minimize your mom guilt before it overwhelms you!

30 Quick Self Care Tips For Moms You Must Try

Self Care is an important part of your ability to fulfill all of your many roles in life!

These 30 self-care tips for moms will get you started in the right direction for taking care of yourself so you can take better care of the ones you love.

Fortunately, we live in a day and age where not everything is about us.

We seek to improve not only our lives but the lives of others, as well.

While this is more commonplace these days, it is still a struggle when you are a mom to create this mindset as a way of being rather than return to old habits or simply run yourself into the ground.

Old habits and patterns are sometimes hard to break.

You may wish them away and want to do better and be more, but without practical tips and advice along with the creation of new habits, you remain stuck in the same old place.

If you’re looking to become a better version of you, the following thirty tips will get you started on the right foot and have you creating new habits in no time at all!

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Self-Care Tips For Moms: Your Schedule

  1. Take Time for You – While you might associate being a better person with doing more for others, the truth is you need to take time for yourself in order to be that better person. If you are burned out and stressed, you will not be a positive contribution to anyone. [clickToTweet tweet=”Taking time out for yourself is not selfish; it gives you the opportunity to refresh your own wellbeing.” quote=”Taking time out for yourself is not selfish; it gives you the opportunity to refresh your own wellbeing.” theme=”style1″]
  2. Create Daily Me Time – Once you understand that taking time out for yourself is a contribution, it’s time to schedule it. It is important to keep your appointment with yourself when declaring your “me” time. Set aside some time daily. If you are like most, this may seem near impossible; but guess what? You can find 15 minutes every day.
  3. Be Dedicated to Your Personal Time Now – If you don’t respect your personal time, no one else will either. Take a 15 minute meditation time in the morning or your daily time out on the front stoop just listening to nature or read an encouraging book like Only Love Today: Reminders to Breathe More, Stress Less, and Choose Love which will take you a few mere moments every day,
  4. Let Others Know You are Serious About Your Personal Time – Once you have an established amount of time and set time of day, let everyone know you have a big, “Do Not Disturb” sign on your back. It’s fifteen minutes a day for goodness sake. Everyone will survive without you for a while.
  5. Choose How You Start Your Day – You can choose to start your day grumpy and irritable or you can choose to start your day grateful that you were given another chance to enjoy life and love. The choice is always yours. Choose to wake up declaring out loud a few things you are grateful for and watch how this daily habit changes your day and your life.

Self-Care Tips For Moms: Your Feelings

  1. Start a Gratitude Journal – When you are feeling overwhelmed, grab a journal and write down your feelings – even if they are negative. Then, give it a new spin. For example, even though I didn’t get the promotion I wanted, I now know what the process is and what I need to work on to better my chances before I put in for the next promotion. I am exactly where I am supposed to be in this moment and am grateful for the great things to come. I love the Gratitude Doodle Journal: The 1 minute-a-day that can change your life.
  2. Practice Journaling Randomly – Journaling releases negativity and toxicity from your body, soul, and mind. However, journaling also resets your mindset. Don’t just fill a journal with negative stuff. If your romantic partner makes you smile or performs a kind gesture, write it down. It will give you something to look at when you miss them or are really mad at them in the moment.
  3. Keep Positive People Close to You – Your attitude will directly affect your day; so if you are being sour and negative, your day will spiral into a sour and negative day. Keep positive friends close by and reel them in when you need a boost. Don’t be ashamed of your bad moods, just take responsibility for them. Grab a friend, talk about it and then let it go.
  4. Keep Negative People out of Your Bubble – You will never rid yourself of all the negative people in your life. After all, some of them are your employers, co-workers and family members. You can, however, keep them at a distance while enclosing yourself in a more protected bubble. You don’t have to let their negativity into your space. Make a choice to slowly distance yourself from them and know that their negativity has nothing to do with you; it’s their stuff – don’t own it for yourself.
  5. Choose Your Filters Wisely – If you read negative stories, watch the news and get involved in gossip, you will most likely end up with negative thoughts. After all, negative stories are what so much of these things focuses on these days. Choose what books, music, and television you let in. Stop ‘hanging out’ on social networking gossip sites and take responsibility for your own actions.
  6. Listen to the Right Kinds of Music – Uplifting music will change your brain waves and fast music will give you a boost of adrenaline. If you are feeling low, pop on some dance tunes and watch how quickly your toes will begin to tap.

Self-Care Tips For Moms: Your Impact

  1. Start Your Day the Right Way – Start your day the right way with one positive thought, affirmation or conversation. If you read something positive, think something positive or say something positive, your day will be that much better and you will have done this by your own power. I like to keep a sticky note on my bathroom mirror with my current affirmation.I also use this desktop wallpaper for my laptop as a daily reminder. [convertkit_content tag=”364033″][/convertkit_content]
  2. Laugh it Off – Have you ever started your day by tripping over something left in the floor, losing your car keys or finding that the raccoons knocked over your garbage pail? Ok…maybe not really raccoons. But rather than get upset, laugh it off as life stuff or sing a favorite song. You’ll be glad you did.
  3. Smile a Little – Smiling releases serotonin. When something goes wrong or someone irritates you, smile about it. You will instantly feel better for being positive and you may help lift their bad mood too. I know it instantly diffuses tantrums when I crouch down and ask my daughter for a hug.
  4. Be the Person You Envision – If you are seeking a partner in life or even if you want to attract more success – be the person that you envision successfully reaching those goals. Be someone who sets goals, takes risks and faces challenges with grace. While hard at first, the more you practice, the closer you will be to becoming that successful person.
  5. Time to Get Organized – Set up a filing system, get a calendar and keep it updated, throw out your unnecessary junk. Once the initial work is done, all you have to do is maintain the organized systems. Don’t want to do it yourself? Pay one of your kids to do it for you!

Self-Care Tips For Moms: Your Time

  1. Time Chunk – Chunk your time into sections and give yourself an allotted time frame for whatever you are doing and stick to it. Have you ever started cleaning out a closet in the bedroom and somehow found yourself cleaning the kitchen only to return to the bedroom and it’s still a mess? You’re not alone. Give yourself 30 minutes to clean out a closet, set a timer,  and then stop when the time is up. Move on to the next chore. Do this at work and at home and you’ll find you get a lot more accomplished each day.
  2. Use Your Cell Phone – Use your timer on your cell phone to time your tasks whether it is running errands or cleaning or making phone calls. Knowing how long you generally spend on these tasks can help you see where you can make improvements which will greatly reduce the stress in your life.
  3. Use Technology – Use your cell phone for reminders on your calendar; be it birthdays, appointments or remembering to take the clothes out of the dryer. Set up your bills to be automatically paid each month. Research online ahead of time where you’ll get the best deals before going shopping. Don’t be embarrassed or think you are failing at remembering. Instead, consider it not having to worry about remembering because it’s done for you.
  4. Get an App – There is an app for everything today from traveling to banking. When you are on the train or waiting in line at the store, you can get things done that would normally have to wait for lunch hour or days off. Being able to accomplish more during these wait times will give you more free time for yourself later.
  5. Shut Down and Unplug – Take time off from technology and unplug from your social devices. If you want to be a better you, you need connections – real-life connections. You need to see faces and hear voices and so do other people. You want your children to remember you – not your face buried in your cell phone or laptop. Take the initiative and plan a real-life coffee date or play date. You’ll make a difference for yourself and for someone else.

Self-Care Tips For Moms: Your Plan

  1. Pick and Choose Your Time – Only you can schedule your time productively. If you choose to scroll on Facebook or to stay up late and oversleep in the morning, the results will be an unfocused and unproductive life. Choose and schedule your time carefully and reap the positive benefits.
  2. Set Attainable Goals – If you set your sights too high, you are more likely to fail. It’s ok to have one big goal but break it into smaller attainable goals to work towards. Completing these smaller goals will keep you motivated no matter how long it takes you to reach the final big goal.
  3. Grab an Accountability Partner – When you set a new goal, it’s important to let people know about it. It’s also important to obtain an accountability partner. When you know you have to answer to your accountability partner and that others are watching your progress, you will work that much harder so you don’t disappoint anyone, including yourself. You also have that partner cheering you on from the sidelines.
  4. Learn the Power of No – Learn how to say no; while difficult at first, it gets easier with time. Saying no frees you up to do what is necessary for a healthy, productive life.
  5. Incorporate Healthy Routines – Never forget the importance of health routines. Keeping fit is your responsibility and it doesn’t have to be sixty hours of cardio or 100 pounds of weightlifting. A simple power walk will suffice, but do it daily and stick to it.

Self-Care Tips For Moms: Your Health

  1. Pay Attention to What You Eat – You only have one body. How you feed it is up to you. A happy body needs the proper nutrients for brain power and health. Avoid foods that only drag the body down. When you eat right, you feel great.
  2. Pay Attention to How You Eat – It’s just as important to pay attention to how you eat as it is to what you eat. Take your time, slow down and eat sitting down. I know as a mom it’s so much easier to grab a bite whenever and wherever you can. Try not to talk while eating. Take a few minutes to digest after eating. While it is the practice of today’s society to “do lunch,” it’s important to breathe right and eat right for proper digestion.
  3. Take a Time Out – Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths a few times a day, even if you have to go out to your car or take a bathroom break. A few minutes of deep breathing and relaxation can reset your mindset for the rest of the day. Mindfulness is a really hot topic right now for a good reason!
  4. Get the Proper Rest – Lack of sleep can make you feel bad and have negative thoughts. If you’re not getting enough sleep at night consider taking a power nap during the day. Even 15 minutes can reset your mood, creativity, and your focus. Set your alarm for 15 minutes and watch how much more energized you will feel afterward.
  5. Stay Hydrated for Your Health- Drink a glass of water before bedtime to hydrate your body and help it flush toxins. Drink another glass first thing in the morning before eating or drinking anything else to help kick-start your organs.

Everyone wants to be the best version of themselves they can be.

By following these self-care tips for moms, you will be well on your way to a more balanced, focused, energized life.

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What are the ways you practice self-care?

 

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What Is Guilt And Why Does It Hold You Back?

What Is Guilt And Why Does It Hold You Back From Doing What You Want To Do?

This is the first installment in a 7 part series on Mom Guilt. 

First, let’s talk about guilt. It’s really not a great feeling, is it? For the most part, guilt is a feeling that you want to avoid.

By definition, guilt is feeling as though you deserve blame for something.

It moves us to action and gets us to do “the right thing”. Think about back in your school days when you would not do your homework – lying about it made you feel guilty.

The feeling of guilt ensured that you completed your homework the next time and kept doing it going forward.

Not exactly a bad thing for your academic career.

But sometimes guilt can be a bad thing that holds us back from achieving the things we want out of life. And as a mom, that guilt really adds up!

We feel guilty about spending time and money on growing a side business.

We take away precious time from our loved ones to get caught up at work.

We don’t get to tuck the kids in at night because we’re going back to school.

What else do you feel guilty about?

 

It’s easy to fall into the guilt trap even when we know what we’re doing is important and worthwhile.

In short, like so many other things in life, guilt can be a positive thing- something that motivates you and gets you to work towards your goals and things you want to get done.

It can also be the thing that’s holding you back, especially if you have too much of it.

That’s why it’s so important to pay attention to your feelings of guilt and ask yourself if they’re productive or if they’re holding you back.

 

 

Over the course of the next seven days, we’re going to dig deep and take a look at those guilty feelings, examine them, and then do something about it if they turn out to be feelings that are holding you back.

We are going to eliminate those feelings that keep you from loving yourself and doing what you really want to do.

Here’s the big problem with guilt:

Sometimes it stops you from doing what you want to do, as we discussed already.

At other times it’s causing you to hold back and not put forth your best effort.

If you are feeling bad about missing dinner with the family, you’re not going to be fully present and committed during that client meeting or the class you’re taking.

The guilt you’re feeling is keeping you from committing fully and giving it your all.

It’s also taking a lot of the joy out of whatever it is you are doing. This may not seem like a big deal at first glance, but it takes a lot of the positive energy and wind out of your sails.

It’s that energy that makes you push a little harder, try a little longer, and do all the little, seemingly insignificant things that make all the difference in the end. Without it, you don’t have the perseverance to see things through.

The feeling of guilt also gives you an easy excuse to give up.

Life isn’t easy and any goal worth reaching takes work and effort.

Sometimes it seems easier to give up than to keep pushing hard, solving problems, or resolving conflicts that we’d rather avoid. That guilty feeling may be just the excuse you were looking for to justify giving up.

By addressing these feelings of guilt and working through them, you will greatly improve your chances of reaching your goals and crafting the life you really want for yourself and your loved ones.

What are areas of your life currently being impacted by guilt?

What have you decided not to do in order to avoid feelings of guilt?

 

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Swipe My Sanity Savers for Stressed Out Moms!

Try these tips to streamline your routines & get started with managing your mommy mayhem today!

As a working mom, you juggle so many things. Swipe my top tips & tools for saving your sanity:

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Scheduling & Productivity

One of the biggest challenges I face is keeping up with the endless list of to-do’s, reminders, appointments, shopping lists…I could go on but I bet you know exactly what I mean. I have found that utilizing web-based tools allow me to refer back to them wherever I happen to be.

I use Google Calendars across all my devices, but have separate ones set up for different life areas – the cool feature here is the ability to view all or some of your calendars at once, but they remain color-coded so I can determine must-do items versus what I can choose to eliminate. You can even share calendars with other people, so if both you and your spouse set one up, it is super simple to schedule family events! If you use Gmail, then you can add events directly to your calendar from an email.

Trello* is another one of my favorite tools for tracking to-dos. I have the add-on in my Gmail (totally FREE) to allow me to create new task cards directly from an email. Since I have the app on both my phone and my computer, I am able to add new tasks and review my to-dos at any time! I also have a Trello board setup to keep track of all of my blog ideas and tasks.

 

If your house is anything like mine, clutter is a constant battle that continually causes me stress. But the WORST part is when you are trying to get out of the house and you cannot find your keys!

Once, I spent two days looking for my keys and didn’t find them until I was loading the dishwasher – my daughter had put them in the sink and they were hidden under all of my dirty dishes!!! I was determined to make sure that never happened again, so I invested in a Tile key tracker. Seriously – this was one of the best decisions I have ever made, and I have been giving them as gifts to everyone I know ever since!

 

Groceries & Meal Planning

Unless you have been hiding under a rock, you know that meal planning is THE BIG THING right now. My first thought was that if I am already strapped for time, there is no way I can fit something like this into my life – it’s way too complex. Well, I recently jumped on the bandwagon after tiring of eating pizza and takeout almost every night, and I cannot believe I did not try it sooner!

I was not brave enough to try and create my own plan out of thin air (nor do any of us have that kind of time) so I bought 10 Meals In An Hour from one of my favorite productivity blogs, Living Well Spending Less. Not only does it have weekly plans and shopping lists already put together, but it walks you through the freezer prep steps for each recipe! I have some pretty picky eaters at my house, and I was impressed that the recipes were suited for all of us to enjoy.

 

Another meal planning miracle has been the advent of the online grocery shopping services. I use Kroger ClickList because it is so close to my house, but Walmart has also recently introduced a similar service. I save money by not having my kids ask for something on every single aisle, and now I no longer have to spend my entire lunch break grocery shopping! I just add items to my shopping list as I think of them, and once per week place an order to pickup. They put the groceries in the car for you, so no need to wrestle with shoes and carseats and cranky kiddos.

 

I recently enrolled in Crystal Paine’s Grocery University and it has made a huge difference in the way I shop. I thought I was doing a good job saving money on groceries, but this has saved me money AND I spend less time trying to find good deals.

 

Education & Entertainment

I currently spend over 10 hours per week commuting & have recently found a way to maximize that time. As an avid reader B.K. (before kids), I am always disappointed when I cannot find time to read any of the great books I hear about.

Enter Audible.

I went back & forth over whether I wanted to spend the money for an audiobook service, but I signed up for the free trial and haven’t looked back. I now can listen to my books at work, in the car, or while I am doing dishes.

Another great option is to subscribe to podcasts on your favorite topics or by your favorite authors. Until I got on ITunes and started looking, I did not realize how many options there were! You can get parenting tips, meditations, inspiration, business advice, you name it and there is a podcast for it. Even better, you can access your (FREE) podcast subscriptions from your phone or computer, and download them for offline listening.

If you are currently enrolled in any online courses or thinking about joining one, many of the teaching platforms are available via your mobile device so you can listen and watch your courses while waiting at the dentist, on your lunch break, or while you are cooking dinner. I love that I can keep up with my learning without being tied to my computer!

 

Last but not least, shopping!!!!

Yes, we live by a budget, and yes, I am a sucker for a good deal as much as you are, but sometimes convenience is more important than scouring all of the sale ads to find the best price.

When I am looking for a last minute gift or if we end up needing to order take-out AGAIN, I will hop on Groupon Local to check for any great deals. When you purchase a Groupon, it is added to your account for use instantly. Recently, I needed to order some sympathy flowers, so I checked on Groupon* before I placed my order and ended up saving $30! There are usually great deals for seasonal and kids activities as well, so I tend to check here for discounted admission before we head out the door.

Amazon is a total lifesaver for moms everywhere. We don’t use the diaper subscription anymore, as my youngest is potty trained, but never having to worry about running out of diapers or forgetting to buy more was priceless. I still use the Subscribe & Save feature for items that we use regularly – air filters are a great example -I know it is time to change them when they show up on that month’s order! Having an Amazon Prime subscription came in handy recently when I didn’t have time to go shop for an upcoming birthday gift, and it arrived just in time for the party!

 

If you aren’t waiting until the last minute to shop, Zulily is an incredible site. I am in love with name brands, and now that we are on a budget, I can still get them in my price range with Zulily. They feature different brands every day (don’t sign up for daily notifications your you might become a shopaholic!), and you can set it up to be notified when brands you are looking for become available. They have amazing customer service, so if anything ever goes wrong, you can be confident they will make it right. That’s the kind of guarantee I need in my life. Even better, you get $15 in referral credit if you share your link & one of your friends signs up!

 

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Breaking Bad Habits to Promote Your Wellbeing

Who doesn’t have a bad habit? I know I have plenty! So why is breaking your bad habits an important part of wellbeing?

It would be hard to find someone that you know that doesn’t have some type of bad habit. These habits can be related to your health, your relationship or to your business.

One of the hardest things about breaking a bad habit is getting enough motivation to actually take the steps required to break it. Setting goals for yourself is a great way to get started, but there are plenty of other methods as well. Read on to find out what method of breaking bad habits will work best for you!

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Some of the most well-known ways to break a habit include:

  • Quitting cold turkey
  • Setting a date to quit your habit
  • Replacing the bad habit with a good one

All of these methods can easily work for you if you are truly ready to commit to breaking your bad habit & have found your WHY.

Would you say that you currently have the desire to quit your habit?

Or is it something that you keep putting off until next week?

Our lives are busy & filled with distraction –  this is why quitting cold turkey or setting a quit date doesn’t always work. The minute you tell yourself that you can’t have or do something, you end up thinking about it all day long.

Small children are a fantastic example of this. When you tell them that they can’t have something, they drive you nuts asking for it. All. Day. Long.

So what can you do instead? Your approach to breaking your bad habits needs to be a little different.

Let’s say for example that you want to quit eating sugar. The minute you place this item on an ‘I can never have it’ list, you constantly crave it!

 

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 How about tackling it this way:

Get up tomorrow morning and tell yourself that you are just going to get through one day without eating sugar. You will find it much easier to say no when offered a sugary treat because there is always tomorrow.

What you will discover is that when tomorrow comes, you only have to get through one day without eating sugar & it will be a little easier than the last. Again it will be much easier to manage and you will find that your motivation increases. Within just a few days you won’t be craving the sugar as much & you will start automatically saying no when offered cake or cookies!

Now that’s not to say you can never eat a piece of cake again. Honestly, who doesn’t want to have a piece of birthday or a slice of wedding cake when offered? All you’re doing is not making sweets treats a huge part of your life.

Instead- you can easily reserve these things as ‘treats’ for a special occasion, as they should be!

Here are some steps for you to try to start breaking bad habits today:

1. Try and determine what it is that makes you perform your bad habit. Do you have a trigger? Is it getting upset or frustrated with someone? Write down the reason and keep it somewhere that you can see it.

2. Don’t let your habit rule your emotions! If you are letting someone’s reaction to something force you into eating, drinking, or something else, try switching your automatic response with another action. Maybe go for a walk, have a cup of tea or coffee or call up a friend.

3. Is your bad habit affecting your health? Do you feel stiff and sore or know that you are putting on the pounds, but hate to admit it? Think about how you will feel if you continue in this way- are you going to start feeling even worse about yourself? What is one thing you can do today that would make a difference?

Breaking a bad habit is not going to be easy.

While you do need to be consistently aware of the choices you make, you don’t want this to become an obsession.

Take one day at a time and get through those 12 or 14 hours at a time.

No doubt you’ll agree that this seems way more doable than using another method. Plus if you do fall off the wagon, you have only missed one day and can get back on track tomorrow!

What bad habits are you working to break right now? Have you found your WHY?

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