Take Time For Self-Reflection And For Finding The Guilt That’s Holding You Back
In this 7 day series on mom guilt, we are taking a look at guilt and why it can hold you back from doing the things you want to do.
In the first post, we started out by looking at what guilt is and how it holds you back from living the life you really want to live.
In order to break through your mental roadblocks and start making some series progress, you have to let go of the guilt.
All of it: the mom guilt, the “supermom” syndrome, the endless parade of should’ve, could’ve, and would’ve.
You’ve got to let it go.
That’s what we’ll cover today.
The first step in this process that you’ll walk through over the coming days is to find the guilt.
If you don’t know exactly what you feel guilty about, you certainly can’t come up with a plan to work through your guilt to send it packing!
Of course, it’s easier said than done.
If getting rid of your guilt was easy, you probably wouldn’t go through a 7-Day process to let it go!
It’s important that you’re committed to discovering what it is that’s holding you back and all of the things you may be feeling guilty about.
You really have to be brutally honest with yourself.
It’s not going to be easy.
It is, however, going to be helpful, eye-opening, and very productive.
Take Time For Self-Reflection to Identify Guilty Feelings
Start by giving yourself some quiet time to think.
We live in a loud and busy world that’s full of distractions.
Toddler tantrums, television, or time for homework – it never ends.
It’s hard to hear yourself think sometimes, isn’t it?
It’s also easier to keep yourself busy and just keep plugging away than it is to stop and take some time to reflect.
But avoidance is a whole other series…
So – find a quiet place, get comfortable and let your mind wander.
Start to think about what you want to accomplish.
Take a look at what might be holding you back:
- What thoughts or tasks start to make you feel uncomfortable when you think about them?
- What part of your journey gets your stomach in a tight knot?
- What is causing doubt to creep in?
- What might be making you feel like you aren’t “enough”?
Pay attention to any triggers and see if you can start to pinpoint your feelings of guilt and where they may be coming from.
A Journal Can Be A Helpful Tool To Explore Your Mom Guilt
A journal really is an excellent tool in this process.
Grab a piece of paper, open up your laptop, or get a brand new journal to start writing your thoughts down.
Putting thoughts on paper can be very clarifying – it forces you to focus more intently and helps to organize your thought processes.
Writing also gives you something to refer back to and read later in the day or further along in the challenge.
This reading of your thoughts and what’s going on in your head can help you discover underlying causes as you “read between the lines”.
Why not give it a try and see if you find journaling helpful in this process?
Make A Plan To Discover Guilt Going Forward
Last but not least, it’s important to realize that this will be an ongoing process.
New feelings of guilt will pop up from time to time, especially as you move into new ages and stages of life.
Be on the lookout for them to pop up so you can address them right away.
Again, journaling can be a great tool for this.
At the very least, be aware of your feelings and carefully evaluate your decisions going forward to see if they are simply being made out of guilt.
Make sure you find some time to evaluate your feelings regularly so you can minimize your mom guilt before it overwhelms you!